Silence V/S Yelling

First of all, I don't have any clue about what I am writing now. Please stop reading the article from here itself if you don’t want to take any chances!!

I wanna talk about two important ways in which people react during the fights.

1. I like it when a misunderstanding (which leads to fights) is cleared by speaking out about the problem. Lets call this case as "Yelling" as of now.
2. But, when I am in a situation where I am angry as well as the other person, I just let the other person speak. My lips will be glued to each other!! Nope... not even yes/no. (I am scared to open my mouth, because I know I am angry). Let’s call this case as "SILENCE"



CASE I => Yelling
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-ve perspective
People start yelling at each other while expressing their views. When someone looses their temper, they do not know to whom they are talking to and what they are talking which will hurt the other person. During this, one will endup speaking sarcastically about cutest thing between the two of them. It becomes worst if the other person cannot forget about what you spoke even after the fight is over. This way, they loose some % of respect for each other and most importantly something special which was there between them was dragged in between the fight. So, they lost that also!!

+ve perspective
For some people after all that screaming and yelling is over, they actually feel light. They feel as if all the bad energy was taken out of them by some super power. Well that works for both of you...then it is the best!! Happy Ending. :)
And also, if one among the two is "WELL" matured and self controlled and if he/she can easily calm down the other person by speaking about things softly, what else the pther person can ask for? This is the best thing can ever happen to anyone. I could never do this , so I am not sure what does that kinda person(calmer one) goes through emotionally. I was on the other side few of the times, the noisier one. So, I can pretty much tell you what goes on there. After both of them finish talking about all those misunderstandings, the noisier one starts developing more respect and love for the nicer (calmer) one. I cannot say how long exactly it will take, but after sometime noisier one will slowly be transformed to nicer one. A good analogy for "INFLUENCE". This is a very very HAPPY ENDING!!! :)


CASE II -> SILENCE
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I hate it when someone else is silent when I am yelling, but I do it most of the time!!

-ve perspective
The silent person's views are locked in a highly secured safe to which nobody has any access. That means there are 100% person chances that this person will get angry on the same thing once again, I mean when ever it happens. Not at all good right? The other person starts getting irritated after it is repeated for more than twice. The third time silent one gets angry on the same thing and if he is keeping quite during the fight...the person will get angrier and it worsens the situation
In some cases, the noisier one takes advantage of the situation and starts yelling at every small thing?? If silence breaks one day.. I cannot clearly say what will be the outcome of this, but I am sure it something bad. Else, one person is suffering always. I can conclude here that in a way, it has a bad effect on the relationship.

+ve perspective
If in a good way, the noisier one understands why the other person is silent, he will calm down sooner. As soon as he is done with saying all he wanted to…issue is closed. And, this way, silent one does not have much time to chew over his anger and get angrier!! This works very well, if the silent one is a good listener too. Sometime when the noisier one is not making any sense while he is speaking, silent one can ignore it and forget easily. Problem solved. Is it too complex to understand/implement?

Oooooo… Now that I have all the confusion out of my mind (but on my blog) I feel better.